for the Why of it?


“Why?’ my son asks…

“Because of this…” I say or “Because of that…”

But why we do things is the most important thing… it is the heart of the matter.

It makes us feel good.

It helps us understand.

It is the lesson.

Children are great reminders to consider, why we think what we think.  There is great responsibility in teaching them how to think for themselves.  Not to blindly accept what is told but to constantly question.  To be open to learning new ways and to replace outdated beliefs.

To learn… if you don’t know.

To ask… if you are unsure.

To search….for the why.

One of the many things I love about my father, is that he was (and still is) always a wealth of knowledge.  Life experience.  Considerations.  When I was growing up, I loved the deep and meaningful discussions (and still do).  Now I see this spreading to the next generation, his grandchildren.  I hope they get the same enjoyment.  I can see that my father does, and he has another 20 odd years of experience, thoughts and considerations to share with them. And now I am a parent, there is another dimension to what he can share with me.

I am really looking forward to the next opportunity I get to answer…

“Mummy, Why…?”


photo credit: Gratisography - Ryan McGuire Bells Design

Start…where you are right now! Don’t wait until you are ready.  Like tomorrow, ready never comes…


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I got side tracked

That’s the difficult thing about searching… it is easy to go off on tangents, to try new things.  Then realise that they are not leading you to where you wanted to go but distracting you from it.

It is necessary though… how else to you stumble upon the gems, have the previously unthought ideas, find new connections.

It all comes back to the questions you ask yourself

(and you need to ask them regularly).

Does this add value to my life?

Is this taking me where I want to go?

What is my gut feeling on this?

Look around you… do these people uplift you (or drag you down)?

Are you distracted?

Our lives are so busy, so many demands but it is necessary to stop regularly and reassess.



De-clutter inside and out.

Just Pause….


Photo credit : Gratisography; Ryan McGuire Bells Design



Minimalism and Me

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At the beginning of the year, I met Minimalism…

Today, “do I need this?” and “does this ‘thing’ add value to my life ?” are regular and continuing questions I ask myself.

Last night I attended an event by The Minimalists touring the world with their book – Everything That Remains.  The venue was packed and within it were a wide and varied range of people.







All ages and backgrounds….

Listening to Ryan and Joshua share their story.  The benefits of finding your own minimalist recipe and style… resonated in the room.  For some it may just result in clearing a little clutter… for others it will become a drastic life change.

In my own life, in just the short time since I found minimalism (or since it found me), there has been a massive change in my mind.  A very simple questioning that strips away the excess to the core of things… the value of things.  The difference between WANT and NEED.

I want to remove the excess, the unnecessary, to find my joy, my passion, and some time to explore it.

Its a fantastic community that The Minimalists have introduced me to and my life is better for it.

I love the way that Joshua and Ryan have minimalised minimalism to 5 dimensions that stack beautifully together in a simple but elegant bundle.

Health – if you don’t have it, nothing else matters and money certainly can’t buy it.

Relationships – we need people in our lives but it needs to be the right people, the ones that lift, nurture, empower and love us.

Passion – minimalism cuts away the excess to allow you to find it, allows you to focus on it.

Growth – “if you are not growing, you are dying” – Anthony Robbins

Contribution – the best payback you get is when you pay it forward and it is priceless.

Everything That Remains - When you strip away the excess, the unnecessary and the old “stuff” (things/thoughts/beliefs/etc) that no longer serves you. When you live with passion and contribute to others… you can’t help but to grow… and to live meaningfully.

So take a step back, look and ask yourself….Does this add value to my life?

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Photo Credits (Top and Bottom) - Ryan McGuire of Bells Design - Gratisography



Pieces of me

Pieces of Me

I bought this painting at a street market in Prague… what seems like a million years ago now, in a life very different to where I am today.  You can see the artists signature but sadly I don’t know who they are to give them credit and thank them.

I loved this from the moment that I laid eyes on it.

It means more to me today…. It is a great representation of how I see myself.

So many small parts make up my whole.  Collected over my life, some gifts, some hidden gems, some that hurt, some that grew slowly, some that were stumbled upon. Arranged and connected like a jigsaw, mosaic or patchwork quilt.

The changing outside influences and events also colour  and effect the inside. How we react to changes, to growth, to painful stimuli.

I find it is so beautiful because it is vulnerable and open. Lowering of the veils and masks we hide behind. Showing the seams and cracks…the beautiful collection of pieces.

Kintsukuroi is the japanese art of mending broken pottery with gold, highlighting the seams and the flaws. These breaks and repairs highlight the objects history, these golden seams make it more beautiful.  It survived a tragic event and with help, has reformed into something else, yet essentially the same.

Some of my seams are gold, where care has been taken to mend them, to bind them.  Others are rough, slapped together  - with tape, glue , silicone (my husbands favourite fixative for home repair) or bad sewing – big uneven, untidy seams with mismatched tread, as parts are hastily sewn together.  There are even some holes, waiting for new patchwork colours… New ideas…New experiences.

Its a constant kaleidoscope of changing parts and colours… that make up me.

As I grow

As I experience

As I change

As I find deeper parts of myself

This picture reminds me we are more than a sum of our parts and we can rearrange and recreate ourselves.

What makes up you?


Photo credit - Laura Arrowsmith-Hudson  "pieces of me" 2014